I love my husband, but dear mother do not want to offend.
Kate grew up under strict upbringing. Obedience, obedience, discipline and treatment in the best laws "authoritarian regime". Not knowing anything more, Kate was sincerely grateful to my parents that they gave her life, good education and appropriate education. She wanted to be able to work in a prestigious company and get a decent, high earnings. But as soon as Kate got married, there were serious problems. Mom did not want to accept the fact that her daughter is old enough. Katie's husband by nature was not very tactful and sharp. Kate several times "forever" left her husband at the request of the mother. And also several times to go back, because it is so like her husband.
This story shows clearly the root cause of the problems that arise because of the ill-fated family said triangle husband-daughter-mother. Daughters tend to find themselves in a position where it is very difficult to show their "I" and honestly say all what they really want. They make traditional mistake of trying to make a "good" for both sides. Thus, they are driving themselves into a large trap. Of course, to get out of it is very difficult.
If this situation is reminiscent of yours, faithful only step will be the following. You must know that waiting in front of the two responsible and serious conversation. One with her husband, the other - with my mother. Mom needs to be convinced that it was, is and will be the most valuable person in the world. What actions and words will be chosen at the same time - it does not matter. But it must be persuaded, and it should not believe it. Her position is that she lived all his life for the sake of his daughter, and then some "rogue" claims to be its main role. Mom should be convinced that nobody will ever replace. Just came a time when her little girl has grown, and it is natural to want a man.
With her husband, things are a bit more complicated. Typically, the problem arises because of his unwillingness or inability to get along with her mother-in. It is these actions put his wife and daughter in a very unpleasant situation. Remember to establish a relationship between the mother-in-law and or eliminate visible confrontation, you can no longer worry about the choice "between two fires."