Family - a small world: types of relationships in a pair

Family - a small world: types of relationships in a pair
 Now social scientists have identified a number of basic types of love unions. Knowing the type of their relationship, one can realize why he actually "made friends" with this partner and what should be avoided in the future co-existence. Understanding the "style" can help in conflict situations.
 Most often, the relationship in a pair are arranged on the basis of one of the five main models, although, of course, there may be a combination of two types or transition from one to another over time (for example, when a child in the family).


This alliance people complement each other, but they are strongly interdependent. Often, they have very similar tastes and the same opinion on any issue. In everyday life partners many rituals, and role in the family is quite clearly divided. Wife is home and focus on the family, and the husband earns money and more contact with the "outside world." The solution partners are together. The main plus of "fortress" - stability, reliability, tradition. Partners tend to avoid quarrels, giving some of their positions. Solving problems, they prefer proven methods. However, life in the "fortress" may become too monotonous and routine. There is a danger that the relationship completely cease to grow.

"Parallel Worlds"

In this pair does not have strong attachments and boiling passions. Sometimes partners seem indifferent to each other. Everyone is busy themselves, but they like to live together, side by side. Probably, it is convenient to them. The couple did not expect from each other and therefore do not get disappointed, do not swear and coexist peacefully. Established once and for all policies and rules that allow to avoid controversy. However, all the predictable and rather boring.


This couple is hiding from the unjust and cruel world. Partners create their "nest" and protect him from the negativity coming from the outside. There is a 'fusion' of the spouses; general activity and the same outlook on life gives them a sense of calm and security. The partners equal responsibilities. Much they make in turn. Unfortunately, the "cocoon" helpless everyday challenges, primarily material. In addition, public recognition and professional achievement are these people far in the first place. In the "cocoon" people are passive and are not inclined to discuss and solve problems. Each of them may suffer in silence for long periods of loneliness.


The goal of each of the spouses - self-actualization. They believe that life together will be deeper if each pair will have a private space and "separate" interests, feeling largely free. Partners are self-sufficient and realize themselves in many areas. They are equal and are able to negotiate. For representatives of the "Association", it is important to communicate with people and "go out" - and together and separately. Difficulties arise when the personal interests of the spouses disagree, and family life miscellaneous personal development. If the preservation of the union begins to require a lot of compromise and even the victims, the couple breaks up.


It's almost like "fortress", but open to the world. A pair of active and prone to flexibility in the relationship; responsibilities of each will vary depending on the priorities. At the first location, the total requirement. However, not always comfortably provided in situations where the common interests and goals take precedence over personal aspirations of each.

According to psychologists, "associates" - the most successful "style" of family life. The existence of such a pair of partners in the most fully. However, the most common in our time becomes "association": many people want to preserve the autonomy and the "right to privacy".

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