First, you must decide what you want man. If you are looking for an intelligent, erudite and serious partner, it is unlikely he will meet in a nightclub. In contrast, very little probability of finding the party-goers, for example, in the library. Visit the places where you can meet the man of her dreams.
If you are unable to meet your soul mate so far, because shy, afraid, then you need to start to get rid of their complexes. It is impossible to do this on their own? Visit psychological training, they will help to become more self-confident. No need to run after the man, it is so you are unlikely to succeed in his conquest. Feel your inner power, believe in yourself. In this case, a man will feel confident vibes emanating from you.
Maybe in the past you had experience of failed relationships? Release your past. Forget about it you can hardly, but try not to pay their thoughts to it again and again. If the offense was plagued past love, forgive them his former partner. Once the deal with their internal problems, then immediately feel lighter.
Women after thirty years especially difficult given the new relationship, in this age of increased demands on the prospective partner. If that is the case, try to lower the bar, remember: there are no ideal people, each has its drawbacks. Maybe later, and you will love her man for his minor cons.
Do not rush headlong dive into a new relationship, find prospective partners as closely as possible, find out what he likes, what interested. So you may get a common topic of conversation.
To meet your soul mate, it is necessary first of all, to work on yourself. Develop, improve your erudition to always be an interesting conversationalist and attentive listener. Receive new skills. And then love will not be long in coming.