Man pointing and tricks

Man pointing and tricks
 Each of us would like to build their lives according to their own interests, attitudes, priorities. But sometimes we give in to others' influence and understand: our actions have been especially beneficial to someone else, and we only lost time, money or a little self-respect. How to learn to recognize manipulation?  

Manipulation - this hidden psychological impact on emotions, feelings partner to obtain benefits for the author's manipulation. To learn how to track manipulation, it is necessary to consider the three most important components of this definition.

1. The latent psychological impact. Manipulation - a subtle influence, in which the manipulator hides profitable for themselves the meaning.

2. Impact and use of emotions, feelings, states partner. This is the basis of manipulation, as in human nature inherent desire to obtain and maintain positive emotions and avoid negative experiences.

3. Benefits for the manipulator. It can be not only material but also psychological, when own status can be raised through public humiliation of another person.

Thus, manipulation - is the impact on the feelings of the opponent, on his "hot spots" or "hooks". Each of us has a set of "hooks" for which we can "hook" to achieve those actions that we would not have made, do not be manipulative influence. These "hooks" are divided into individual and universal.

Individual "hot spots" - this is a traumatic experience that had to go through a specific person in his life. It is believed that pressure on these points can only be experienced arm that is able to quickly consider them. This is partly true, but the main players in this case, sadly, are just close friends, knowing the character and life experiences in order to influence someone.

Manipulation of anxiety and fear. The manipulator is the situation as if his opponent is in danger, and then offers a way to avoid it. In everyday life is common.

Manipulation of guilt. This is one of the most important "levers" manipulator. And the main way to manipulate the guilt - is demonstrative offense.

Manipulation on a sense of compassion, pity. These feelings are inculcated from childhood: parents, kindergarten, school actively develop the possibility of manifestation of such feelings. Although these feelings are really needed, they are targeted by the manipulators of all sizes.

Manipulation on the benefit of pity. In this case, it is not even always about greed - rather, the desire to be more economical or get at least a small profit. It may be joint proposals friends to invest in some very profitable business that benefits friends, and good for you, if you just pass without losses.

Manipulation of shame and conscience. Shame instilled from childhood, nurtured and educational conversations, and discussions of children's books and cartoons. Each child is taught in some situations it is necessary to feel shame, saying, "You should be ashamed! No shame, no conscience! ". Shame - it's a kind of feeling of inferiority themselves or their behavior is so strong that at this moment I want to hide from prying eyes, it would be desirable, that no one knows about shame. This gives room for manipulation to "know."

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