Why We Hurt

Why We Hurt
 People are offended by very different reasons and occasions. Resentment is a feeling of irritation, anger and sometimes hatred to those who hurt; knock out the familiar, comfortable psychological state. It destroys a person from the inside, does not give him no rest, sometimes giving rise to a desire for revenge.
 Most often, people take offense at the words, actions, gestures, actions, unfair treatment that offend important soul strings. What is important, significant, even vulnerable.

Tendency to manifest sensitiveness usually in childhood. Psychological trauma inflicted on a person at an early age, may adversely affect the character, in particular, appear to unduly severe, negative reaction to the words and actions of others. Of course, this complicates the lives and relationships with others. But on this disadvantage it is possible to work: children's causes utter insults, let them go and, therefore, free from the children's facilities. Much more difficult to cope with adult touchiness.

One reason for the frequent insults may have chronic fatigue. Accumulating, growing like a snowball, it becomes a catalyst for negative feelings: irritability, irascibility, incontinence. Nerves and aggravated perception, people may gradually lose the ability to evaluate the words, deeds and actions of others. It is this inadequate assessment of what is happening and causes resentment.

Chain of unpleasant incidents in the life of a man that occurred over a short period of time can also cause internal problems. Of course, it is difficult to remain calm, balanced, when negative, injuring per event filled living space. It drains the mental strength and makes the person hypersensitive, leading to misunderstanding and resentment. But as improvements such resentment leaves.

Conflicts, whether a collision at work with colleagues, superiors or misunderstanding, bad relations within the family cause feelings of anger and inner tension. Man spends mental strength to maintain the conflict, overt or covert, and it spends its vital resources, makes vulnerable.

People resent and if not met, are not met their expectations, when life does not correspond to the level of their own claims. Advice here is perhaps one - not to raise their expectations too, Set realistic goals in life, learn to adequately assess the situation and its possibilities.

Although the main root cause of all offenses - that is what a person believes that others (people, the world is) something he "must". For example, should react that way and not another, have something to give, etc. And when these expectations are not met, there is a feeling of resentment and a desire to blame everyone and everything in injustice. But if we take for yourself installation, you no one should, and you are responsible for all the events in your life, and then will not take offense at that, and no one else.

But the resentment may also be a powerful stimulus for internal changes, to work on ourselves. The main thing - to be able to send emotions in a constructive, rather than destructive path.

Tags: feeling resentment, reason