Analyze the insult - to determine exactly what caused it. Instead of sulking on each and every one understand what the real cause of your frustration. You may be offended by a spouse, friend, relative, because it is something not so said or did, but usually causes resentment goes deeper than a reason that you chose to be offended. For example, you are upset because your spouse again clean up the table. Are you unhappy with the fact that he left a mess that you have to clean up, or the fact that he does not think about the efforts being expended in keeping the house clean?
Try to write a letter to someone who has offended you. You do not then it will be sent, but it will help you throw out the emotions, and then analyze the feelings.
Tell someone about his offense. Choose a person close to you, but loyal to the other side of the conflict. You need to listen to you, regret, but it is not branded abuser, and a look at the situation from the outside.
Before expressing his resentment, try to forgive the person who caused it to you, otherwise constructive conversation will not work. If your child told you rude words, think about the fact that he suffers as much as you, but do not know how to tell you this, because it is - a teenager, and you are an adult.
Remember that many grievances stem from the fact that people assume the worst and think out of the other, putting in the wrong statement the meaning that they do not mean.
Prepare for the conversation. Specify myself, what do you think happened that you feel something to think about. Decide what you want from the conversation - what results it should result in the future, except that you will express what you suffer.
Be calm, but assertive. Do not let you kill and lead the conversation away. Talk about your emotions, feelings, thoughts, use in a conversation I-statements - "I hate", "I do not like", "I'm hurt," and not "you made me uncomfortable," "You hurt me" and even more so not "your fault that ...".
Express your needs. Tell me what you want - "I want you to apologize," "I want you to understand," "I want to in the future, in which case we behaved".
If your partner is trying to carry on a conversation in a raised voice, interrupting you, speaks disparagingly about your feelings - interrupt the conversation and leave the room. Your partner is not ready for dialogue and can only just over and over again to offend you. If you see that people just can not understand your feelings, think about whether to continue communion with him? So whether it is dear to you, as a loved one, or required as a business partner?
In order to formulate and then to express their grievances, you can also resort to using a professional consultant