How to make you want to listen

How to make you want to listen
 In any company, even a two-man, listen to those who have something to say. Not to be in a ridiculous position expressed only when firmly believe in the right.

But there is in fact true, that you are well versed in the subject of discussion and report accurate facts and your interlocutors to argue with you. You are right - they are not. You hurt, you start to raise his voice and gesticulating violently ... This is a big mistake. Nobody likes it when shouting and waving their hands - even if you're right, your opponent can have the principle disagree with you. And in the eyes of others screamer does not look too attractive.

You want to listen, be quiet and convincing. If you feel you are getting excited, stop and perform better mentally counting down from 10 to 0 - this will help you pull yourself together. Reassured, continue the conversation politely, in benevolent tone, using expressions like: "I know what you mean ..." "Yes, of course, it's very surprising, but there's such facts ..." "Of course, you can see from this point of view, but ... must be considered. " The more polite and friendly will you have, the more likely to listen to you talk to.

If you want to take part in the conversation, which was fastened up to you, do not attempt to interrupt the interlocutors and dokrichatsya audience - wait for a pause in the conversation. Sometimes it happens that one is sure that his opinion - the most important and the most intelligent, and he is well-intentioned attempts to convey his associates. In such circumstances, meaningful conversation will not last long ...

Always a pleasure to talk with a witty conversationalist. But, you want to listen to, not to be confused with sarcasm humor and fun - with a sneer. Taunt only to those people who are determined to make enemies. After that, of course, can not take care of that you hear.

One should always remember the maxim of Kant: "Treat others the way you want them to treat you." Well imagine what kind of person would you like to listen to, and talk the way it makes your imaginary ideal.

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